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      A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD                  

Repentance & Forgiveness

God is very happy when we are willing to truly forgive and/or repent for our sins. That's why we feel so much Love when we do that or when the supposed 'purpetrator' or 'victim' goes into repentance and/or forgiveness. We at all times need to see that we too are the purpetrator when allowing the purpetrater to continue to abuse and damage us further. So we need to recognize our own sins next to the sins of the other.

However there is a big difference between when you should repent or forgive after recognizing a sin. This depends on where and when the imperfection of Love in question originated. To understand this, the following three types of Self are important;

Real (true) Self = Our (half) soul how God created us in complete completeness of Love.

Wounded/Damaged Self = Family environment and educational systems as the cause. Damage caused for which you were not responsible. In this case we should; forgive. Forgiveness is necessary in your relationship with yourself and with others in order to let go of damage from childhood. This usually concerns events up to about the seventh year of life on earth because the consciousness of the soul has not yet been able to fully develop. Remember that the person you need to forgive also has a Damaged Self.

Façade (fake) Self = My own choices as the cause. Damage caused for which you were and are responsible. In this case we should; repent, from where automatically forgiveness arises. Repentance is necessary for your actions of your free will towards others, where there was imperfection of Love. This usually concerns actions from about the seventh year of life, when the self-will in the development of the brain started in the soul.

Forgiveness is necessary: When someone has done something to us in sin (in omission or commission). Someone has sinned against us; an intention, words, thoughts, actions, emotions that are out of harmony with God's Love.

Repentance (and forgiveness) is necessary: When; we have intentionally or unintentionally acted out of harmony with God's Love and thereby damaged our environment and ourselves. Then you must forgive what was done to you for what caused in you to sin in the first place.

How do I know if I have truly forgiven?
When you no longer feel the pain in relation to what has been done to us. You haven't necessarily forgotten it, but it no longer has an emotional effect on you because the emotion is no longer attached to your soul. In addition, there is no more hostility towards the 'perpetrator'.

How do I know if I have truly repented (and forgiven)?
Here you focus on three different layers:
1 When you no longer feel the pain in relation to what you have done to someone else.
2. When you no longer feel the pain in relation to what you have done to yourself.
3. When you no longer feel the pain in relation to what was done to you that caused you to do something to someone else.
It is therefore important in repentance that you not only look and feel about what you have done, but also look and feel about why you did it. Why you do something often has a cause that lies in the Damaged Self.


Our personal choices are related to damage from our childhood, but we think that we do not have to take responsibility, because we believe that the emotions of the Damaged Self are more important than the emotions of the Façade Self.
So: when I make a choice, I am responsible for it. I can't do anything about the choices of others and only have direct control over my own personal choices. For this reason, it is one's own choices that does the most damage to the soul.
The only reason not to repent or to forgive is because we are unwilling to feel our emotions in addiction to what we think we get in return.

When someone repents towards us for something they have done or forgives us for something we have done unto them in harmony with Love, Love can flow again between the two individuals. Going against forgiving someone for repenting towards you, you are only adding harm which will also then result in harming others further (sin in sin effect) instead of it to dissapear. Willpower can help in cases of forgiveness as forgiveness is a choice of the frontal lobe of the brain which you consiously can do to be able to grow in Love. Forgiveness and repentance always result in a win-win situation for both involved parties, nobody can lose. 

When you see someone how God sees us all forgiveness comes automatically.


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